Early this morning:
Nic: I’m late! Gotta go Mom.
Me: Okay, babe. Have a great day!
Nic: I love you.
Me: Love you! Bye babe.
Emma: Love you, Nicky..
Nic: I love you Em.
Emma: Bye bye
Just another typical conversation, right?
Um no. No. Not at all. Nothing typical about it. This. This is why I don’t envy any other family, this is what I treasure about MY family. This is exactly why, this conversation, this seemingly common, innocent, no-big-deal conversation…. yeah. Because this conversation has never been uttered before until this morning. And weirdly Nic and I were talking just five minutes before, while the three of us had breakfast about the importance and magic of being present. We were discussing how this moment, right now, this second will never be repeated. We may have moments like it, but this one? Nope. Never again.
And as we were talking about all of this, Nic interrupted me and we had the above conversation, the one I’ve just transcribed. It may seem un-noteworthy to many of you, you may be thinking, so what? Or who cares? But to me, this conversation that other families have, perhaps on a daily basis and don’t think twice about, they are little nuggets of pure gold because these moments with my children are gifts, each one of them, pure gifts that I am so lucky to have.
In Buddhism there is emphasis on being present and practice and it isn’t easy. It’s a simple concept, but definitely not easy for most of us to actually do. And yet, when I am able to really show up for this moment the joy is beyond description.
I will leave you with one more snippet.
Later this morning as Em and I walked toward her school, we stopped at a red light. As we waited she linked her arm through mine. Not a single word was exchanged. We waited, a mother and daughter, side by side for the light to turn green and once it did we made our way to the entrance to her school. As Emma entered the gymnasium where the children and teachers were waiting, one of Em’s classmates called out, “It’s Emma. Yay! It’s Emma. LOOK! Look! It’s a cupcake, I love cupcakes!”
And Em looked back at me and grinned before running to greet her friend.