Oddly enough I was planning to write a post about commenting on blogs and comments in general. Just as I was sitting down to begin the post, I received an email telling me one of the blogs I follow had a new post. The post was entitled – For Ariane and Those Who Lie Awake At Night.
A little backtracking is in order – about a week ago during another late night blog surfing session (finding blogs related to autism has become nothing short of obsessive – who says the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree?) I found a blog, Life and Ink. The writer is a mom whose autistic son is now a young man. Since she began the blog last fall it was easy to read all her posts, which I did. As I did, I wrote a comment on one particularly moving post and then she answered and I kept reading and read this:
“And with that said dear reader, if YOU need help, if YOU are overwhelmed, contact me. Talk to me. Let me or another parent who has been there listen and help you. If we pooled our resources and decades of experience just think of the difference we can make for each other and for our children.
Now that makes me happy.”
When I read that, I was in the middle of trying to put the series of autistic writers together for the Huffington Post and I was writing the introduction to the series. I thought about what Charlotte had written and it inspired me to write a hypothetical conversation:
“What if, instead of receiving that memorable phone call when Emma was first diagnosed, I received a call that went something like this:
“Your daughter has been diagnosed with autism.”
“Let me give you a list of blogs and people you can call who have been where you are now. I think you’ll find them invaluable. These are parents whose children are autistic and autistic adults who are happy to speak with you. They will help you help your child.”
When the HuffPo piece was published I commented on Life and Ink telling her that she had inspired me to write that. We then wrote back and forth and now she’s written the post that I’ve added the link to. In that post she writes (in response to something I’d written earlier about lying awake in the middle of the night and listening to “the voice” – “The voice knows once you share what it has said it will lose its potency, its grip on you. And that is why talking to people about what you are feeling, what it is saying, is so important. That is why these blogs are so important.”
I don’t know if any of this makes sense to everyone reading this, but each comment I receive on Emma’s Hope Book is like a little gift. Each time I comment on someone else’s blog and they reply, it’s the same. A little gift wrapped up in words to savor.
On this most recent Huffington Post piece an autist wrote – “I have this feeling we’ll both soldier on.” I loved that he wrote “we” because the truth is “we” will. We will soldier on… together. (As Emma would say.)
So to all of you who have commented – thank you. And to all who haven’t, but think about doing so, DO! It’s wonderful and I promise you, I’ll respond. I promise.
For more on Emma’s journey through a childhood of autism and ours, go to: Emma’s Hope Book